I also have it in my head that my husband should somehow know what I want before I have to ask for it. This does develop into low-key resentment. Why hasn't he taken out the organics? Can't he smell them? Doesn't he see I won't have enough room for tonight's stir fry detritus? Why do I have to always ASK? It's not so much reading my mind as it is anticipating my needs - Sheila is the cook, she will need to chop up vegetables, that organic bin is looking and smelling gross, I should take it out and make her happy. That's not mind-reading! but maybe I could express that doing that feels like a gift of thoughtfulness to me...
You look fine, your skin looks glowy and you DO have a good haircut! I'm glad your shoulder is feeling better! I so appreciate your lovely comments on my articles, thank you.
It is so wonderful to hear from you. I am glad you are taking a break from the mental torture of re-living your wrist breakage. And, believe you me, it is torture. We may own it but it does not making remembering it any easier. I too have a memory of when I was overpowered by someone more physically stronger than me. And uttering the word "NO" did no good whatsoever. That is many years ago and I have kind of "owned it". But I have never forgotten it and probably will carry it to my grave - a long, long time in the future.
Yeah, don't you wish your nearest and dearest could anticipate what you want/need and do it? But let us think this trough, very carefully. It comes really close to "mind reading". Do you really want to know what someone else is thinking? Do you really want them to know what you are actually thinking? I sure do not. Really? I can think of nothing more disastrous eh?
Science Fiction/Fantasy writers have toyed with the idea for many, many decades. Most of the time, it did not end well. The best they could come up with was a "soul-mate" type of personal (individual) connection and then you had to accept that person for everything he or she was, warts and all. It is a very loving fantasy of mind, but never going to happen, probably.
Anyways, Hugs to you and Veronica. Nose kisses from me in Canada. Be Well.
Glad your healing is progressing, and sorry you are entering the cranky, bored, are we done yet? stage. I was very cranky all last year because of various annoying problems that seemed unremitting, but I don't think I really have accepted how hard the year was until I started noticing how more relaxed I am when similar annoyances pop up occasionally this year. But to have two sort of similar problems immobilizing you within 2 years must be doubly frustrating. As for that "why do I have to ask for help when it should be obvious and I would have anticipated your need instantly" thought...well I've been having it for over 50 years. But I had to laugh this week when my husband actually anticipated a need, and then looked hurt that I was surprised!!!
I also have it in my head that my husband should somehow know what I want before I have to ask for it. This does develop into low-key resentment. Why hasn't he taken out the organics? Can't he smell them? Doesn't he see I won't have enough room for tonight's stir fry detritus? Why do I have to always ASK? It's not so much reading my mind as it is anticipating my needs - Sheila is the cook, she will need to chop up vegetables, that organic bin is looking and smelling gross, I should take it out and make her happy. That's not mind-reading! but maybe I could express that doing that feels like a gift of thoughtfulness to me...
You look fine, your skin looks glowy and you DO have a good haircut! I'm glad your shoulder is feeling better! I so appreciate your lovely comments on my articles, thank you.
It is so wonderful to hear from you. I am glad you are taking a break from the mental torture of re-living your wrist breakage. And, believe you me, it is torture. We may own it but it does not making remembering it any easier. I too have a memory of when I was overpowered by someone more physically stronger than me. And uttering the word "NO" did no good whatsoever. That is many years ago and I have kind of "owned it". But I have never forgotten it and probably will carry it to my grave - a long, long time in the future.
Yeah, don't you wish your nearest and dearest could anticipate what you want/need and do it? But let us think this trough, very carefully. It comes really close to "mind reading". Do you really want to know what someone else is thinking? Do you really want them to know what you are actually thinking? I sure do not. Really? I can think of nothing more disastrous eh?
Science Fiction/Fantasy writers have toyed with the idea for many, many decades. Most of the time, it did not end well. The best they could come up with was a "soul-mate" type of personal (individual) connection and then you had to accept that person for everything he or she was, warts and all. It is a very loving fantasy of mind, but never going to happen, probably.
Anyways, Hugs to you and Veronica. Nose kisses from me in Canada. Be Well.
Yes, trust is essential to life...and asking for help does not mean you are a monster, silly! Just that you are human. Enjoy the help while you can!!!
Glad your healing is progressing, and sorry you are entering the cranky, bored, are we done yet? stage. I was very cranky all last year because of various annoying problems that seemed unremitting, but I don't think I really have accepted how hard the year was until I started noticing how more relaxed I am when similar annoyances pop up occasionally this year. But to have two sort of similar problems immobilizing you within 2 years must be doubly frustrating. As for that "why do I have to ask for help when it should be obvious and I would have anticipated your need instantly" thought...well I've been having it for over 50 years. But I had to laugh this week when my husband actually anticipated a need, and then looked hurt that I was surprised!!!