If your husband and son don’t care that much about Christmas stuff, you are blessed. It’s all so much work, and doesn’t it seem like we just did this?!
It sounds to me like a big dose of self-care is in order! Here's a link to an article in my Love-letters called "The Me First Principle, bit.ly/3Z6U0Zp. I feel much the same about Christmas and I dislike the commercialism it brings up. Have the best Holiday season you can muster on your terms!
No, it's not the same and it sounds like you may know the difference and choose accordingly. When I encounter avoidance in myself, I sit with it a bit to see if I should avoid it for now (sometimes a very wise choice), or add it to a list of things I want to remember so I can decide later. Or, sometimes I look at it and say "just do it and get it over with". If you are avoiding self-care, a deeper look is needed to see what's really stopping you. In all cases, you get to decide.
We each must define what the holidays mean to us. We can't let the marketers do it. It's okay to do whatever feels right for you. Recovering must be the first priority. Do only the necessary things, (work, therapy) skip the unnecessary stuff (you can bake stollen next year, or when you feel better), and focus on getting stronger. Make it a restful time and take care of yourself...guilt-free.
I relate! I tend to do too much for the holidays. You have a lot on your heart, mind and soul. Try to glide in and out of the season. Hope all goes well for you!
Rest. Great letter. All you need to do.
If your husband and son don’t care that much about Christmas stuff, you are blessed. It’s all so much work, and doesn’t it seem like we just did this?!
All too true!
It sounds to me like a big dose of self-care is in order! Here's a link to an article in my Love-letters called "The Me First Principle, bit.ly/3Z6U0Zp. I feel much the same about Christmas and I dislike the commercialism it brings up. Have the best Holiday season you can muster on your terms!
Sometimes I feel like all I do is self-care though. Or avoidance. Not the same right?
No, it's not the same and it sounds like you may know the difference and choose accordingly. When I encounter avoidance in myself, I sit with it a bit to see if I should avoid it for now (sometimes a very wise choice), or add it to a list of things I want to remember so I can decide later. Or, sometimes I look at it and say "just do it and get it over with". If you are avoiding self-care, a deeper look is needed to see what's really stopping you. In all cases, you get to decide.
We each must define what the holidays mean to us. We can't let the marketers do it. It's okay to do whatever feels right for you. Recovering must be the first priority. Do only the necessary things, (work, therapy) skip the unnecessary stuff (you can bake stollen next year, or when you feel better), and focus on getting stronger. Make it a restful time and take care of yourself...guilt-free.
Good advice. I like having rituals, but I don't want to be a slave to them.
I relate! I tend to do too much for the holidays. You have a lot on your heart, mind and soul. Try to glide in and out of the season. Hope all goes well for you!
It will be fine, one way or another, as long as my mom isn't alone on Christmas!